According to a study published by researchers from Carnegie Mellon University, people with supportive spouses are “more likely to give themselves the chance to succeed.”

Participants with more encouraging partners were substantially more likely to decide to compete for the prize, while those with partners who discouraged them or expressed a lack of confidence more often chose the simple puzzle.

163 married couples were used as subjects for the research. Psychologists found that subjects with supportive spouses were more likely to take on potentially rewarding challenges. Those who accepted challenges experienced more personal growth, happiness and psychological well-being just a few months later.

From the 163 couples, each partner was given a choice – to solve a simple puzzle or to compete for a prize. Researchers then took note of each couple’s interactions with each other.

They discovered that those with more encouraging and supportive partners were likelier to compete for the prize. Those whose partners were discouraging opted for the simpler puzzle.

“Obviously I couldn’t have done anything that I’ve done without Michelle. You were asking earlier what keeps me sane, what keeps me balanced, what allows me to deal with the pressure. It is this young lady right here… Not only has she been a great first lady, she is just my rock. I count on her in so many ways every single day.”- FORMER U.S PRESIDENT, BARACK OBAMA

When researchers followed up on the same couples 6 months later, they found that those who took on the more challenging exercise reported being having better relationships, growth, mental well-being, and are generally happier as a couple than those who solved the easier puzzle.


We all know the people we surround ourselves with can affect our behaviors in one way or another, for good or bad. So when picking someone to spend the rest of our lives with, we should include more factors than just beauty,looks & money. Getting someone supportive, ambitious, driven & ready to take on challenges can be the difference between living a successful life & an average one.

Marry someone you admire, so that you can borrow those qualities but also improve & work on yourself so that you have something to offer.



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